Independent, Cooperative and Proximity Working Styles 1. You can also use this for looking at yourself. Do you find that you move towards pleasure or away from pain? You pull away from a lighted match in order to avoid the pain of burning your hand. You sit and watch a beautiful sunset because you get pleasure from the glorious celestial show as day glides into night.
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Independent, Cooperative and Proximity Working Styles 1. You can also use this for looking at yourself. Do you find that you move towards pleasure or away from pain? You pull away from a lighted match in order to avoid the pain of burning your hand.
You sit and watch a beautiful sunset because you get pleasure from the glorious celestial show as day glides into night. You also can check this in yourself. For example, do you put more stock in how you rate your performance or do you look to feedback from others?
For some people, the proof comes from the outside. The boss pats you on the back and says your work was great. You get a raise. You win a big award. Your work is noticed and applauded by your peers. When you get that sort of external approval, you know your work is good. For others, the proof comes from inside.
If you sort only by self, you become a self-absorbed egotist. If you sort only by others, you become a martyr. Some people respond to the world by finding sameness. They look at things and see what they have in common. Other people are mis-matchers — difference people. There are two kinds of them. One type looks at the world and sees how things are different … The other kind of mis-matcher sees differences with exceptions.
To figure out what consistently convinces someone, you must first find out what sensory building blocks he needs to become convinced, and then you must discover how often he has to receive these stimuli before becoming convinced.
Possibility vs. Necessity NLP Meta-Program You might know some people that are minimalists or you might be a minimalist yourself, and focus on just what you need. On the other hand, you might be a seeker and always looking to expand your opportunities and possibilities. Some people are motivated primarily by necessity, rather than by what they want. They do something because they must. They go through life taking what comes and what is available. When they need a new job or a new house or a new car or even a new spouse, they go out and accept what is available.
They seek options, experiences, choices, paths. They have to run their own show. Others function best as a part of a group.
We call their strategy a cooperative one. They want to share responsibility for any task they take on. Still others have a proximity strategy, which is somewhere in between. They prefer to work with other people while maintaining a sole responsibility for a task. One is from a significant emotional event. The other way you can change is by consciously deciding to do so.
Use NLP meta-programs on two levels. The first is a tool to calibrate and guide your communication with others. The second is a tool for personal change.
Constantly gauge and calibrate the people around you. Take note of specific patterns they have for perceiving their world and begin to analyze if others have similar patterns. Through this approach you can develop a whole set of distinctions about people that can empower you in knowing how to communicate effectively with all types of people.
Become a student of possibility. NLP Meta-programs give you the tools to make crucial distinctions in deciding how to deal with people. You are not limited to the meta-programs discussed here. Key Take Aways Here are my key take aways: Use meta-programs to understand yourself and others. Meta-programs helps you understand how people sort and make sense of the world.
They also help you understand your own values, beliefs and behaviors. Remember that people use a blend of meta-programs. Change your own limiting meta-programs. Identifying your own meta-programs you use is a start. Once you have awareness, you can see how this shows up. Ultimately, I think knowing how people work, helps bridge gaps.
It can also lead you to self-understanding and the better you know yourself, the better you can drive yourself. You Might Also Like.
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Meta Programs determine which of our perceptions are selected for attention. Advanced patterns of thinking that control what you perceive -- and how to change them Meta Programs are mental processes which manage, guide and direct other mental processes. In other words, they are processes about or at a higher level than meta to the mental processes they affect. You could compare them to a switchboard that controls which two telephones will be connected to each other for the process of having a conversation, or a thermostat which controls whether your air conditioning system is turned on or off.
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